The Meaning of Men

Reflections: Recognising Postnatal Depression in Men.

For this weeks reflections session we look back at our conversation with Tom Bailey, who shared his experience of suffering postnatal depression after the birth of his son.

S1, Ep 9: The Meaning of Porn Addiction.

More men in the UK struggle with a porn addiction than a gambling addiction. But with such a heavy stigma attached, it remains a largely hidden and unspoken issue.
 
In this episode of The Meaning of Men, leading sexual and relationship psychotherapist Dr Paula Hall dives into the impact of porn addiction on men’s mental health. She breaks down how compulsive porn use can become a coping mechanism for stress, anxiety, and even depression in men, often leading to secrecy, shame, and withdrawal from their partners. 
We explore the signs of male depression linked to porn addiction, including emotional numbness, loss of interest in real intimacy, and a diminished sense of pleasure. Dr. Hall also shares practical steps for those struggling and how loved ones can support and navigate difficult conversations.
 
Links to Dr Paula's work:
Pivotal Recovery website - https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/
Laurel Centre website - https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/
Dr Paula's book - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Treating-Sex-Pornography-Addiction-dp-0815362285/dp/0815362285/ref=dp_ob_title_bk
 
 

Reflections: 'Believe in The Decency of Boys and Men'.

For this weeks reflections session we look back at our conversation with Dr Judy Chu, an expert in boys and men.

S1, Ep 8: The Meaning of Grief.

Could understanding how men truly process grief change the way we approach mental health?
In this episode of The Meaning of Men, therapist and author Tom Golden reveals how men process emotions differently—and why that often goes unrecognised. Tom shares his journey into grief therapy, where he discovered that traditional talk-based methods weren’t working for his male clients. Instead, men tend to heal through action—building, creating, or physically doing something that helps them process their emotions.
We discuss the signs of male depression, which often show up as anger, withdrawal, or overworking rather than visible sadness. Tom also highlights the pressures men face—from biological instincts to cultural expectations—that make opening up feel like a risk. He also offers practical advice on how to support grieving men: forget forcing conversations, and instead, meet them where they are—side by side, engaged in an activity that allows emotions to surface naturally.

Reflections: It’s Not a Competition – Your Feelings are Valid.

For this weeks reflections session, we look back at our conversation with Firefighter and former Royal Marine Kyle Martin. 
Kyle reminded me that whether you're facing something big or small, your emotions matter—and you don’t have to diminish them. 
 

S1, Ep 7: The Meaning of Extreme Sports (from 5k feet above sea level!)

The Meaning of Men is scaling new heights! In this episode we talk to extreme mountaineer Jost Kobusch, the day before his latest attempt to climb Mt Everest! Jost shares his awe-inspiring journey from a boy afraid of heights to one of the world’s most daring alpinists. 
 
The conversation explores men’s mental health, the dangers of bottling up emotions, and the stigma around fear and vulnerability. Jost’s insights into recognising the signs of male depression and finding balance between challenges and stability speak directly to men navigating everyday pressures. His message is clear: growth comes from facing discomfort, asking tough questions, and leaning on support networks when needed.

Reflections: The 4 Types of Male Friendships.

For this weeks reflections session, we look back at our conversation with Geoff Greif, a distinguished professor and author of Buddy System.
During our chat Geoff broke down the different types of male friendships he outlines in his book. This really got me thinking about my own circle of friends in a very different way.
 

S1, Ep 6: The Meaning of Postnatal Depression.

1 in 10 fathers will suffer from postnatal depression. Yet most people still don't realise it's something that men suffer from. In this episode of The Meaning of Men, I chat with Tom about his own experience of postnatal depression and the impact on his mental health. Tom talks openly about the pressures of fatherhood, the signs of male depression he ignored, and how he eventually realised he needed help.
He shared his struggles of invasive thoughts, trying to shoulder all the responsibilities and the nagging feeling of not being “good enough.” Despite the challenges, Tom reflects on how leaning on his wife, Sarah, and being honest about his feelings helped him move forward. This episode is a reminder that mental health awareness is crucial, especially for dads, and that it’s okay to admit you’re struggling. Tom’s key takeaway? “You’re not failing, you’re learning.” A must-listen for anyone navigating the often messy but ultimately rewarding reality of fatherhood.

Reflections: The Power of Perseverance (ft Chuckie Online).

For this weeks reflections session, we look back at our conversation with Radio 1 Xtra presenter and media personality Chuckie Online. During our interview, I asked Chuckie what he wanted his legacy to be. His answer was both unexpected and incredibly inspiring. I'll share why this stuck with me and how it's already helped me in aspects of my life. 

S1, Ep 5: The Meaning of Social Media.

How much of your day is spent scrolling—and is it doing more harm than good?
In this episode of The Meaning of Men, psychotherapist Aaron Balick discusses how our online lives impact men’s mental health. He dives into the good and the bad of social media—how it spreads mental health awareness but can also fuel anxiety, depression, and body image struggles. Aaron explains why platforms are so addictive (hint: it’s all about those dopamine hits) and how algorithms keep pulling us into echo chambers.
Aaron also talks about the signs of male depression, how to spot when social media might be harming you or someone you know, and ways to have a healthier, happier relationship with these platforms. Aaron shares why real-life relationships are key to mental well-being, offering tips on how to reconnect with the world outside your screen. A must-listen for anyone navigating today’s digital minefield!