S2, Ep3: The Meaning of Rejection.

Why does rejection affect us so deeply—and what can we do about it?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, professor of psychology Mark Leary uncovers the powerful role rejection plays in our lives. Drawing from decades of research, Mark explains how our sensitivity to rejection is deeply rooted in our evolutionary need to belong—and why that need still shapes our behaviour today.

We explore how rejection impacts self-esteem, relationships, and mental health, particularly for men, who are often discouraged from expressing vulnerability or acknowledging emotional pain. Mark offers valuable insight into how we can better understand our reactions to rejection, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and develop a more resilient sense of self.

 

Hear more from Mark:

Interpersonal Rejection Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Interpersonal-Rejection-Mark-R-Leary/dp/0195130146

Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toward-less-egoic-world

Timestamps:

04:46: The Impact of Rejection

11:42: The Evolutionary Roots of Acceptance

15:11: Friendship Dynamics and Acceptance

18:57: Types of Rejection and Their Impact

26:00: Rejection Sensitivity: Genetic and Experiential Factors

31:14: Perception of Rejection: Overestimating and Underestimating

33:06: Understanding Sensitivity to Rejection

35:19: The Balance of Acceptance and Rejection

37:44: Reframing Rejection: A Positive Perspective

41:55: Navigating Romantic Rejection

46:09: The Complexity of Self-Worth and Rejection

49:11: Hurt Feelings: The Core of Rejection

51:25: Moving Forward After Rejection