S2, Ep15: The Meaning of Good Anger.

What if anger wasn’t the problem—but the way we misunderstand it is?

In this episode of The Meaning of Men, we're joined by journalist and author Sam Parker, whose book Good Anger challenges the idea that anger is inherently destructive. Instead, he shows how—when understood properly—anger can be one of our most powerful tools for self-awareness, connection, and even healing.

We explore the difference between anger and aggression, the damage caused by suppressing anger, and how men in particular can start expressing it in healthy, productive ways. Whether it's in our relationships, our work, or even our mental health, anger holds clues to our unmet needs and deeper wounds—if we’re brave enough to pay attention.

This conversation is all about changing the narrative around anger—and learning how to use it, not fear it.

Hear more from Sam:

Good Anger book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Anger-Radical-Rethink-Misunderstood/dp/1399417851

 

Timestamps:

06:59: The Concept of Good Anger

12:47: Distinguishing Anger from Aggression

17:00: The Impact of Suppressed Anger

21:30: Healthy Expressions of Anger in Relationships

27:45: Understanding Anger: Boundaries and Unmet Needs

33:03: The Complexity of Anger in Relationships

35:05: Self-Compassion and Anger: A Deep Connection

38:20: Building Healthy Habits Around Anger

45:48: Navigating Anger in the Digital Age